avoid bieng added to multichat

[John Jay Smith]

Some people just add me to a multiple chat without recieving some
confirmation
message or warning...

I HATE THAT... is there a way I can disable this??
I am sure it is a security risk


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[XxRebelSeanxX]

No there is no way of disabling it, nor is it a security risk. You choose
who to have on your contact list, and if you have people to add you to
multi-person chats it's your fault =).








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[John Jay Smith]

err... whatever you say...

Anyone here have a real answer?

"There are always possibilities"

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"XxRebelSeanxX" > wrote in message
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> No there is no way of disabling it, nor is it a security risk. You choose
> who to have on your contact list, and if you have people to add you to
> multi-person chats it's your fault =).
>
>
>
>
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>
>
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>

[Nigel Reed]

John Jay Smith <-> wrote:
>
> err... whatever you say...
>
> Anyone here have a real answer?

That's the real answer. You have to deal with it, or tell them not to do
it. If they continue to do so, remove them from your contact list.

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[Marc]

Nigel Reed wrote:
> That's the real answer. You have to deal with it, or tell them not to do
> it. If they continue to do so, remove them from your contact list.

The real answer is - nope MS havn't thought that through.

That fact that large conversations often cause my client to slow down
and crash does make it a security risk (and I have a mid range system,
if it can manage half life 2, it should be OK with an instant messenging
program).

Sometimes I don't want to be added to a conversation full of people I
don't know (and may have even blocked).

It is a problem - you remove someone from your list but then someone
else adds you into a conversation with them- the first person now knows
you've blocked them!

Surley a better approach would be if I block/remove someone, then they
are not able to see my online presence or recieve my messages - even if
someone else invites me in with them.

Marc

[Jane Colman]

It appears that the only way to avoid being roped into group conversations
is to sign in as "appear offline", and hope that nobody who you're messaging
invites you in......

Whilst multichat can have its uses, it can also be a big pain in the bum :(



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[John Jay Smith]

Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all the
problems
I was thinking of

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"Marc" > wrote in message
...
> Nigel Reed wrote:
>> That's the real answer. You have to deal with it, or tell them not to do
>> it. If they continue to do so, remove them from your contact list.
>
> The real answer is - nope MS havn't thought that through.
>
> That fact that large conversations often cause my client to slow down and
> crash does make it a security risk (and I have a mid range system, if it
> can manage half life 2, it should be OK with an instant messenging
> program).
>
> Sometimes I don't want to be added to a conversation full of people I
> don't know (and may have even blocked).
>
> It is a problem - you remove someone from your list but then someone else
> adds you into a conversation with them- the first person now knows you've
> blocked them!
>
> Surley a better approach would be if I block/remove someone, then they are
> not able to see my online presence or recieve my messages - even if
> someone else invites me in with them.
>
> Marc

[Chris]

I guess that's what you get for having idiots on your contact list that
insist on having large conversations, just be a boring person and you don't
get added
"John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message
...
> Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all the
> problems
> I was thinking of
>
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> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
>
>
>
>

[Jonathan Kay [MVP]]

I've been boring for years and I still get added!

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"Chris" > wrote in message ...
>I guess that's what you get for having idiots on your contact list that insist on having
>large conversations, just be a boring person and you don't get added
> "John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message ...
>> Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all the problems
>> I was thinking of
>>
>> --
>> Disclaimer: This info is given "as is".
>> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
>> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
>>
>>
>>
>>
>
>

[NLWard]

Not necessarily, Sean. I've been added to a chat with a friend of a contact.
IOW, my contact was chatting with someone else, who wasn't on my contact
list. I could chat with both of them then. However, my friend asked both her
contact and me if it was OK to add me to the chat.

And that's what should be done. When this happens, it's common courtesy to
ask your chat partners, as well as the invitee if it's OK. Only then should
someone be included into a multiple contacts chat.

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"XxRebelSeanxX" > wrote in message
...
> No there is no way of disabling it, nor is it a security risk. You choose
> who to have on your contact list, and if you have people to add you to
> multi-person chats it's your fault =).
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> ---------------
> Sean Bradford
> MSN Messenger & Windows Live Messenger Extraordinaire
> Website: http://messengermad.com
> Blog: http://spaces.msn.com/xxrebelseanxx
>
>

[NLWard]

See my reply to Sean, John.

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"John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message
...
> err... whatever you say...
>
> Anyone here have a real answer?
>
> "There are always possibilities"
>
> --
> Disclaimer: This info is given "as is".
> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
>
> --
> "XxRebelSeanxX" > wrote in message
> ...
>> No there is no way of disabling it, nor is it a security risk. You choose
>> who to have on your contact list, and if you have people to add you to
>> multi-person chats it's your fault =).
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>> ---------------
>> Sean Bradford
>> MSN Messenger & Windows Live Messenger Extraordinaire
>> Website: http://messengermad.com
>> Blog: http://spaces.msn.com/xxrebelseanxx
>>
>>
>
>

[Chris]

your contacts must be boring too then ;)
"Jonathan Kay [MVP]" > wrote in message
...
> I've been boring for years and I still get added!
>
> --
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> Associate Expert
> http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/expertzone/
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> --
>
> "Chris" > wrote in message
> ...
>>I guess that's what you get for having idiots on your contact list that
>>insist on having large conversations, just be a boring person and you
>>don't get added
>> "John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message
>> ...
>>> Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all
>>> the problems
>>> I was thinking of
>>>
>>> --
>>> Disclaimer: This info is given "as is".
>>> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
>>> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>
>>
>
>

[Nigel Reed]

Chris > wrote:
>
> your contacts must be boring too then ;)

FOAD ;)


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"I reject your reality and substitute it with my own" --Adam Savage.

[Nigel Reed]

NLWard > wrote:

> Nancy Ward
> Beta Butterfly
> MSN Messenger MVP

^^^
Are congrats in order? Not noticed that before.

It'll be nice for Jonathan to have an MVP friend to play with :)

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"I reject your reality and substitute it with my own" --Adam Savage.

[XxRebelSeanxX]

No you are not, shush smart one ;p. <3







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[XxRebelSeanxX]

Sure you can have your contacts ask you before hand before being added, but
that is not a fix on the client itself's end. Not all people are going to
ask you to be added to multi-chat conversations, it would be nice. I'm not
saying I don't disagree with a fix to this, I'm simply stating that there is
no fix to this at the moment (Something on the client itself's end).





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[XxRebelSeanxX]

LOL. A funny one you are, Nigel.






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[Nigel Reed]

XxRebelSeanxX > wrote:
>
> Sure you can have your contacts ask you before hand before being added, but
> that is not a fix on the client itself's end. Not all people are going to
> ask you to be added to multi-chat conversations, it would be nice. I'm not
> saying I don't disagree with a fix to this, I'm simply stating that there is
> no fix to this at the moment (Something on the client itself's end).

Actually I was put in a very uncomfortable situation by being added to a
multi chat without being asked first.

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"I reject your reality and substitute it with my own" --Adam Savage.

[kenny]

That's one of the reasons. As for security, I meant it in a broader view.
If someone who thinks that you are offline, can obtain the information that
indeed
you are online, then that means he could take advantage of that in some way.
The scenarios are thousands. I wont even get into explaining the
ramifications.

When you block you mean you have blocked. Period.


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"Nigel Reed" > wrote in
message ...
> XxRebelSeanxX > wrote:
>>
>> Sure you can have your contacts ask you before hand before being added,
>> but
>> that is not a fix on the client itself's end. Not all people are going to
>> ask you to be added to multi-chat conversations, it would be nice. I'm
>> not
>> saying I don't disagree with a fix to this, I'm simply stating that there
>> is
>> no fix to this at the moment (Something on the client itself's end).
>
> Actually I was put in a very uncomfortable situation by being added to a
> multi chat without being asked first.
>
> Regards
> Nigel
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>
> "I reject your reality and substitute it with my own" --Adam Savage.

[Peregrine]

The trick isn't to be boring, it's to be soo obnoxious, that people don't
want to talk to you. :p

"Jonathan Kay [MVP]" wrote:

> I've been boring for years and I still get added!
>
> --
> Jonathan Kay
> Microsoft MVP - Windows Live Messenger/MSN Messenger/Windows Messenger
> Associate Expert
> http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/expertzone/
> Messenger Resources - http://messenger.jonathankay.com
> All posts unless otherwise specified are (c) 2006 Jonathan Kay.
> You *must* contact me for redistribution rights.
> --
>
> "Chris" > wrote in message ...
> >I guess that's what you get for having idiots on your contact list that insist on having
> >large conversations, just be a boring person and you don't get added
> > "John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message ...
> >> Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all the problems
> >> I was thinking of
> >>
> >> --
> >> Disclaimer: This info is given "as is".
> >> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
> >> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >
> >
>
>
>

[Jonathan Kay [MVP]]

Sadly not in my personality so I guess I'm stuck with the chats :(

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"Peregrine" > wrote in message
...
> The trick isn't to be boring, it's to be soo obnoxious, that people don't
> want to talk to you. :p
>
> "Jonathan Kay [MVP]" wrote:
>
>> I've been boring for years and I still get added!
>>
>> --
>> Jonathan Kay
>> Microsoft MVP - Windows Live Messenger/MSN Messenger/Windows Messenger
>> Associate Expert
>> http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/expertzone/
>> Messenger Resources - http://messenger.jonathankay.com
>> All posts unless otherwise specified are (c) 2006 Jonathan Kay.
>> You *must* contact me for redistribution rights.
>> --
>>
>> "Chris" > wrote in message ...
>> >I guess that's what you get for having idiots on your contact list that insist on having
>> >large conversations, just be a boring person and you don't get added
>> > "John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message ...
>> >> Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all the problems
>> >> I was thinking of
>> >>
>> >> --
>> >> Disclaimer: This info is given "as is".
>> >> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
>> >> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
>> >>
>> >>
>> >>
>> >>
>> >
>> >
>>
>>
>>

[Chris]

just tell them crazy rapist monkeys are comming to eat them.
"Jonathan Kay [MVP]" > wrote in message
...
> Sadly not in my personality so I guess I'm stuck with the chats :(
>
> --
> Jonathan Kay
> Microsoft MVP - Windows Live Messenger/MSN Messenger/Windows Messenger
> Associate Expert
> http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/expertzone/
> Messenger Resources - http://messenger.jonathankay.com
> All posts unless otherwise specified are (c) 2006 Jonathan Kay.
> You *must* contact me for redistribution rights.
> --
>
> "Peregrine" > wrote in message
> ...
>> The trick isn't to be boring, it's to be soo obnoxious, that people don't
>> want to talk to you. :p
>>
>> "Jonathan Kay [MVP]" wrote:
>>
>>> I've been boring for years and I still get added!
>>>
>>> --
>>> Jonathan Kay
>>> Microsoft MVP - Windows Live Messenger/MSN Messenger/Windows Messenger
>>> Associate Expert
>>> http://www.microsoft.com/windowsxp/expertzone/
>>> Messenger Resources - http://messenger.jonathankay.com
>>> All posts unless otherwise specified are (c) 2006 Jonathan Kay.
>>> You *must* contact me for redistribution rights.
>>> --
>>>
>>> "Chris" > wrote in message
>>> ...
>>> >I guess that's what you get for having idiots on your contact list that
>>> >insist on having
>>> >large conversations, just be a boring person and you don't get added
>>> > "John Jay Smith" <-> wrote in message
>>> > ...
>>> >> Good I hope rebelsean reads your analysis... it covers just about all
>>> >> the problems
>>> >> I was thinking of
>>> >>
>>> >> --
>>> >> Disclaimer: This info is given "as is".
>>> >> If you do not like the content or attitude of my posts,
>>> >> please put me on your ignore list or dont read my posts.
>>> >>
>>> >>
>>> >>
>>> >>
>>> >
>>> >
>>>
>>>
>>>
>
>